State of The Scene

So lately I've been having several conversations with my homies about the state of the current dating scene. It seems like currently everyone is encountering the same difficulties. Hopefully, it's a cyclical thing, and the trend will subside soon, lol....





Manners...

Or rather the absence of them. When did it become cool to pull someone's hair you've never met or to grab someone's ass you don't know. Those are the extreme cases of course. But even the little things like properly introducing yourself to someone seem to be disappearing. At first I thought it was just the younger guys coming out with no home training but I and my girls are seeing this lack of respect in the men who are supposed to grown as well.




Indecisiveness...

Indecisiveness seems to be on the rise as well. How come you can't just go out on a date with someone and just see what happens. I'm indecisive myself, but if I'm going to go on a date with you then I'm agreeing to be open to what may or may not happen. No one is saying you gotta have the world figured out, because I don't think that any of us do but dang at least be solid in the decision to be open.




Reverse Gold-digger...

When we hear the term Gold-digger, you automatically think of a chick looking for a guy with money to pay her bills and buy her things and what not. It seems though that there is a trend more so lately for guys to want a chick to take care of them, monetarily. I honestly am more of the mindset of splitting things. Sure it's nice for a guy to pay for things, and if it makes him feel more like a man to do it, then I won't rock the boat and force him to let me pay. I just think it's good to take turns or if he's paid for a few things then I'll be like let me get dinner this time. It should be that way. The way that you spend your time and money or great gauges as to show how much you value someone, because if you're not willing to give those things then you're not really feeling them. It's just an interesting trend to see guys who are completely unashamed of being like I want a chick to take care of me. I know I'm an independent type who likes to take care of myself likes making my own money to pay my own bills and what not and it would be nice to be with someone who can take care of me financially but I just want them to be able to do it, not actually do it. So yeah, maybe instead of going from one extreme to the other things will work themselves closer to the middle.