I Wish...

I wish females were nicer to one another! Have you ever been out at the mall or in a club or wherever, and there is a female who obviously looks really good and other females for the life of them can not give her any props or say things like "she aight" "that outfit is cute but..." and etc.

I was just talking to someone about how we as females don't seem to realize how much we bring ourselves down. Women already get dressed, put on makeup, do crazy ass diets, and work out like mad women. The sad thing is that they don't do it for themselves, and contrary to popular belief they don't even do it for their man or a potential man. They do it for other women, to attempt to cover up whatever imperfections if not physically then with in their personality & character that they do not want revealed. I know, and remember in my experience growing up there was a lot of pressure to have the nicest clothes, the best hair style and etc. It starts very young, and it only gets worse as we get older. I feel that most women (if that's what you want to call them) don't realize that the actions that they continue to perpetuate that were started so long ago only work to continue to bring down the young women growing up today.

For instance, when female rappers/lyricists/mc's and the like have "beef" or "diss" one another I think they don't recognize that firstly they are in an industry where they are outnumbered at least 10 to 1, secondly men will always in this country anyway, have the upper hand in the rap game. When they have these beefs and put each other down they only work to diminish the popularity of another female rapper. It doesn't propel or boost their career like it would if a man were to do the same thing.

I say all this to say that if we as women truly want to see less "drama" be less "catty" be more real, looked at as intelligent and not hateful individuals the first step to that is to teach the young women coming up that it is okay to give another female a compliment, that one does not need to compare or meet the standard of beauty that someone else has designed to be beautiful. We have to instill self-esteem and self-worth in females from a young age. NOT CONCEITEDNESS but confidence. We have to show each other respect and not let another females beauty whether inside or out make our judgment of ourselves any less or raise defensiveness in us.

The fact of the matter is, in this world, you are always going to have to fight hard to be looked at for who you are, and respected for who you are. You could be the "ugliest" or the "prettiest" female that has graced the Earth and in the end you are going to have to face the same battles with your self-esteem and developing a sense of self-worth. Why don't we help one another out and instead of focusing on what is "wrong" with someone else, we identify what within us is wonderfully beautiful and look for what is wonderfully beautiful in other females and let them know it. We are already fighting an uphill battle but to change that we have to start somewhere!