Don't Tell Me You Love Me

I was listening to this song and it made me think back to a conversation I was having about loyalty one day. Not within a relationship necessary, but among friends. I remember hearing once that one of the reasons why women have so much difficulty after a bad breakup or a breakup in general is because once women get into a romantic relationship they often times all but disconnect, drop, or don't put time into most of their female friends/support system. Then they have to build those relationships back up. In the conversation I was having it was stated that even though obviously you have to dedicate time to your relationship and your other responsibilities, that most times men do a better job of making sure their boys are still their boys. So where is this all going?

Well, when I was listening to this song there is the part where he is talking about don't listen to your hating friends and what not. Let's be real though, let's say your girls have had your back for years, maybe even since childhood & you may have known this man for two or three years for example. Thinking logically about it... if she didn't advise you to do you, be careful, get out of the situation, and etc. when you are being done wrong... is she really your friend??? Also, on that same logic train.... if you are in a relationship that is lacking fidelity, trust, respect, and so on, wouldn't the friend have to be an utter FOOL to "hate on" or "envy" that mess??? Now maybe if your friends are some chicks with low self esteem or if they aren't really "down" for you in the first place I could see that, but I'm willing to bet more often than not it has ish to do with "hating" or "misery loving company" or any of those other stereotypical reasons men give their women when their womans' friends are trying to look out for her.

I hope I never find myself in that kind of position, but that if I do I have the courage to remember the sustained love that has been given to me through out my life by those who have always been there for me and to believe that no matter my decision they will have my back but that if they don't say what I would like to hear or if what they say is counter to what I would like to do, that it is because they love me and want the best for me and not for any other nonsensical reason.