I can often be found wearing a green bracelet on my arm with the word freedom written in many languages on it. I have been working really hard to find freedom from many things and I'm glad to say that so far it's going well!
It's not easy, and there are days where I just feel like f-it I don't want to do all this work to change things up, to change the way I've done things for forever. On those days I just take a deep breath and keep it moving though. I've kept in my thoughts and emphasize it greatly on those down days that in order to get something you've never had you have to be willing to do something you've never done! For me this is the right time to put the effort in to feel some things that I've put off feeling because there wasn't time for that, to learn more about myself and how to take care of me, and to grow from the collective of experiences that I have had in a direction that I wasn't ready to grow in before. It's a good time to say the least!
Wednesday, November 18, 2009
Wednesday, November 4, 2009
Monday, August 31, 2009
HAPPY BIRTHDAY.... TO ME!!!
I've started every birthday probably for the last ten years by listening to this song, I always change "the 21st" to "the very 1st".
Tuesday, August 4, 2009
Friday, July 17, 2009
If...
If we teach others how to treat us, and a reoccuring theme in our lives appears to be that to others we are disposable, how do we determine what actions we are taking and what it is that we are teaching others that gives them this impression? Maybe more importantly, how do we stop teaching others this false interpretation of how to treat us?
Sunday, July 5, 2009
I'mma Give Myself A Pat On The Back
I'm so proud of myself that I deserve a trophy!!! Woo Whoo! No need to go into specifics as to why but I navigated what could've been a difficult situation very well!
Sunday, June 14, 2009
State of The Scene
So lately I've been having several conversations with my homies about the state of the current dating scene. It seems like currently everyone is encountering the same difficulties. Hopefully, it's a cyclical thing, and the trend will subside soon, lol....
Manners...
Or rather the absence of them. When did it become cool to pull someone's hair you've never met or to grab someone's ass you don't know. Those are the extreme cases of course. But even the little things like properly introducing yourself to someone seem to be disappearing. At first I thought it was just the younger guys coming out with no home training but I and my girls are seeing this lack of respect in the men who are supposed to grown as well.
Indecisiveness...
Indecisiveness seems to be on the rise as well. How come you can't just go out on a date with someone and just see what happens. I'm indecisive myself, but if I'm going to go on a date with you then I'm agreeing to be open to what may or may not happen. No one is saying you gotta have the world figured out, because I don't think that any of us do but dang at least be solid in the decision to be open.
Reverse Gold-digger...
When we hear the term Gold-digger, you automatically think of a chick looking for a guy with money to pay her bills and buy her things and what not. It seems though that there is a trend more so lately for guys to want a chick to take care of them, monetarily. I honestly am more of the mindset of splitting things. Sure it's nice for a guy to pay for things, and if it makes him feel more like a man to do it, then I won't rock the boat and force him to let me pay. I just think it's good to take turns or if he's paid for a few things then I'll be like let me get dinner this time. It should be that way. The way that you spend your time and money or great gauges as to show how much you value someone, because if you're not willing to give those things then you're not really feeling them. It's just an interesting trend to see guys who are completely unashamed of being like I want a chick to take care of me. I know I'm an independent type who likes to take care of myself likes making my own money to pay my own bills and what not and it would be nice to be with someone who can take care of me financially but I just want them to be able to do it, not actually do it. So yeah, maybe instead of going from one extreme to the other things will work themselves closer to the middle.
Manners...
Or rather the absence of them. When did it become cool to pull someone's hair you've never met or to grab someone's ass you don't know. Those are the extreme cases of course. But even the little things like properly introducing yourself to someone seem to be disappearing. At first I thought it was just the younger guys coming out with no home training but I and my girls are seeing this lack of respect in the men who are supposed to grown as well.
Indecisiveness...
Indecisiveness seems to be on the rise as well. How come you can't just go out on a date with someone and just see what happens. I'm indecisive myself, but if I'm going to go on a date with you then I'm agreeing to be open to what may or may not happen. No one is saying you gotta have the world figured out, because I don't think that any of us do but dang at least be solid in the decision to be open.
Reverse Gold-digger...
When we hear the term Gold-digger, you automatically think of a chick looking for a guy with money to pay her bills and buy her things and what not. It seems though that there is a trend more so lately for guys to want a chick to take care of them, monetarily. I honestly am more of the mindset of splitting things. Sure it's nice for a guy to pay for things, and if it makes him feel more like a man to do it, then I won't rock the boat and force him to let me pay. I just think it's good to take turns or if he's paid for a few things then I'll be like let me get dinner this time. It should be that way. The way that you spend your time and money or great gauges as to show how much you value someone, because if you're not willing to give those things then you're not really feeling them. It's just an interesting trend to see guys who are completely unashamed of being like I want a chick to take care of me. I know I'm an independent type who likes to take care of myself likes making my own money to pay my own bills and what not and it would be nice to be with someone who can take care of me financially but I just want them to be able to do it, not actually do it. So yeah, maybe instead of going from one extreme to the other things will work themselves closer to the middle.
~*ENTOURAGE*~
Yes, it is that time of year again, well almost. I'm so excited for JULY 12th to come so that I can start watching Season 6 of Entourage, definitely one of my most favorite shows! I remember when they got to Season 4 or so and I started getting worried that like a lot of other shows before them that it would start getting stale or old or stupid, and I'll admit for a few episodes I was like "Seriously???" but they definitely bounced back and I am just bursting with anticipation to see what's going to happen this season, so get the DVR's set and ready to go! YAY!
The Big 5-0
So for Daddy's 50th Birthday and also Father's Day gift the brother and I got him a watch. It's not super fancy but it is a Bulova watch and it's great quality silver facing real leather strap. I'm just having a hard time figuring out what to get engraved on it. I was just going to go simple with "Happy 50th Birthday!" Or maybe I should get the date something like "To Dad On Your 50th Birthday 6/21/09". I guess I'll figure it out. I'm actually excited for the party, it's always nice to just hang around at his house and eat good food and relax. I'm sure what to get on the watch will come to me soon. I guess it better, lol, not like there is much time left.
Thursday, June 11, 2009
Woooosaaaaaaaah
Oooo, This one pulls at the heart, more than a little bit... I'm sensitive but not uber-emotional, but yeah....
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y7WUKHRTfeM
Style of your hair,
shape of your eyes and your nose,
the way you stare
As if you see, right through to my soul,
It's your left hand and the way
that it's not quite as big as your right,
the way you stand in the mirror
before we go out at night,
Our quiet time,
your beautiful mind,
They're a part of the list.
Things that I miss.
Things like your funny little laugh,
the way you smile or the way we kiss.
What I noticed is this:
I come up with
something new, every single time
that I sit and reminisce.
The way you sweet smell
lingers when you leave a room,
(you leave a room)
Stories you tell as we lay
in bed all afternoon.
(all afternoon)
I dreamed you now every night
in my mind is where we meet.
(my mind is where we meet)
and when I'm awake
staring at pictures of you asleep.
Touching your face,
invading you space.
They're a part of the list.
Things that I miss.
Things like your funny little laugh,
the way you smile or the way we kiss.
What I noticed is this:
I come up with
something new, every single time
that I sit and reminisce.
Oooh, and you'll live in my memories forever more I swear.
And you'll live in my memories forever more I swear.
They're a part of the list.
Things that I miss.
Things like your funny little laugh,
the way you smile, or the way we kiss.
What I noticed is this:
I come up with
something new, every single time
that I sit and reminisce.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y7WUKHRTfeM
Style of your hair,
shape of your eyes and your nose,
the way you stare
As if you see, right through to my soul,
It's your left hand and the way
that it's not quite as big as your right,
the way you stand in the mirror
before we go out at night,
Our quiet time,
your beautiful mind,
They're a part of the list.
Things that I miss.
Things like your funny little laugh,
the way you smile or the way we kiss.
What I noticed is this:
I come up with
something new, every single time
that I sit and reminisce.
The way you sweet smell
lingers when you leave a room,
(you leave a room)
Stories you tell as we lay
in bed all afternoon.
(all afternoon)
I dreamed you now every night
in my mind is where we meet.
(my mind is where we meet)
and when I'm awake
staring at pictures of you asleep.
Touching your face,
invading you space.
They're a part of the list.
Things that I miss.
Things like your funny little laugh,
the way you smile or the way we kiss.
What I noticed is this:
I come up with
something new, every single time
that I sit and reminisce.
Oooh, and you'll live in my memories forever more I swear.
And you'll live in my memories forever more I swear.
They're a part of the list.
Things that I miss.
Things like your funny little laugh,
the way you smile, or the way we kiss.
What I noticed is this:
I come up with
something new, every single time
that I sit and reminisce.
Wednesday, May 20, 2009
Monday, May 18, 2009
Moment of Clarity
Wanting to be there for others, not give up on anyone too soon, forgive and forget, be gracious and humble... can work you into a corner. A corner where you become a prisoner of others expectations. The idea that you may be missing out on the opportunity on "what could be" becomes your motivation.
Having direction, being strong, knowing you can tackle any obstacle... can work you into a corner. A corner where any diversion from the plan becomes unacceptable and unfathomable and it becomes your motivation to do the opposite.
Graduating to not giving a fuck... breaks the bonds of those personal prisons and the prisons that we allow ourselves to be sucked into, that are built by others.
Freedom, is Amazing & Awesome.
No longer feeling stagnant not being ashamed of being strong and knowing you are destined for greatness. Having a clear vision of how you will get there and becoming confident that the diversions are all part of the plan.
No longer being concerned with the feelings of those who do not consider yours. Finally making options out of former priorities. Doing things in accordance to your needs and wants. Putting yourself and your well being first. Realizing that it's not always worth it, that if they were really worth the time, you wouldn't have to work so hard.
Knowing the only limits you have, the only walls to keep you trapped are the ones you allow to be built up around you, choosing not to sit in the back seat, but to take the wheel and make sure that you are the one driving, not sometimes, but all the time. Admitting that you are further along in realizing your potential, that you are smarter than most, better than all of the bs, and that your drive and ability will only scare the unworthy.
Never giving up the power, or allowing yourself to be in a position to be driven by the actions and the shortcomings of those bent on taking you down with them, but taking the higher road.
The satisfaction of being free...
~**~Chicken~**~
Well I guess I should just be happy that black people weren't the only people complaining.
Where's The Chicken?!?
Where's The Chicken?!?
Moment of Clarity
This whole life thing IS ABOUT PROGRESS,
It's about making mistakes and learning from them,
It's about contributing something to this world instead of always taking,
It's about looking back and seeing where you've been and being proud of how far you've come.
If you're not making progress what are you in this for?
Are you just taking up space?
Fuck the haters,
And the fake people,
Fuck the people who doubt you,
It's NOT about them,
And in the words of Mary J. "they'll never be happy because they're not happy with themselves"...
What's your life about people?
How do you measure your happiness?
Is it by how much money you make?
How many hearts you break?
How much joy you steal from others?
Cause that damn sure is NOT what it's about...
"You can get the money, and you can get the power, but keep your eyes on the final hour" - Lauryn Hill
When you have to answer for your actions,
For what you did in this life,
Are you going to be able to say that you gave love,
That you put yourself second for the sake of someone else,
That you were decent, honest, and respectful,
That people knew what to expect from you and you played it straight.
No, you can never reach perfection, but that's why it's about the PROGRESS
WHAT IS YOUR LIFE ABOUT????
Because I'm all about living mine with:
Patience, for myself and others
Passion, in making my dreams realities and my goals accomplishments and
Purpose, because God didn't bless me and give me all of these gifts for nothing!
Monday, April 6, 2009
Friday, April 3, 2009
Wednesday, April 1, 2009
That is SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO ME!
- In the beginning of a relationship, try not to over think the situation or over—react to minor set backs. If there's chemistry and compassion, it will all work out.
- You may be so diplomatic that your potential partner is unclear who you are. Take a chance at being more direct and decisive.
- Rather than waiting for the right moment, interrupt now and then with some of your imaginative and broad—minded ideas; it can lead to sparkling, involved conversation and close companionship.
- Let a potential partner know your boundaries, needs and hopes. This way he or she will be able to act accordingly to deepen the bond.
- Talking is only one form of intimacy. Try doing something side by side with him or her, particularly something new and collaborative.
Sunday, March 29, 2009
Moment of Clarity
Time for another installment of Moment of Clarity. This Moment of Clarity comes from a conversation with my best friend and we were talking about adaptability at one point it went something like this...
I think we have in common is our adaptability to situations and I think that we both kind of look at challenges in a way like I can do this and get through it and I know that one of my fears is that I'll hit a wall one day that I can't walk through and maybe i'm not as strong as i think I am, but I think that adaptability sometimes can turn into a blockade and it blocks us from feeling things and expressing things and looking within ourselves and really having a strong sense of self. Honestly, I think, well I'm leaning more towards I know that-that adaptability is what has kept me from finding real love and being in a strong and healthy relationship. Sure I can identify what I like in a guy or what turns me on but I am so willing to adapt to what someone has to offer who I have some interest in that I haven't taken the time to flat out say I need this this this and this in a man and I want this this this in a man and I won't settle for anything but those things. I've realized that it really is me, and not in a bad way or anything but because I haven't identified who I am as someones lover or gf or wife or rather who I will be in those situations how can I expect to find the right relationship? But I'm still hopeful, I've identified the type of student I am what I want career wise the type of daughter i am the sister that I am and so on and so forth so I can get there it just may take me longer than figuring out those other things did but I'll make it there.
Saturday, March 21, 2009
I Like This...
My Dad's wife put this on their refrigerator, apparently a lot of people think it was written by Maya Angelou but when I was looking for it online so I could share it on my blog I found out that was an incorrect thought, anyway here it is....
When I say, "I am a Christian," I'm not shouting, "I've been saved!"
I'm whispering, "I get lost! That's why I chose this way"
When I say, "I am a Christian," I don't speak with human pride
I'm confessing that I stumble-needing God to be my guide
When I say, "I am a Christian," I'm not trying to be strong
I'm professing that I'm weak and pray for strength to carry on
When I say, "I am a Christian," I'm not bragging of success
I'm admitting that I've failed and cannot ever pay the debt
When I say, "I am a Christian," I don't think I know it all
I submit to my confusion asking humbly to be taught
When I say, "I am a Christian," I'm not claiming to be perfect
My flaws are far too visible but God believes I'm worth it
When I say, "I am a Christian," I still feel the sting of pain
I have my share of heartache which is why I seek His name
When I say, "I am a Christian," I do not wish to judge
I have no authority--I only know I'm loved
Copyright 1988 Carol Wimmer
When I say, "I am a Christian," I'm not shouting, "I've been saved!"
I'm whispering, "I get lost! That's why I chose this way"
When I say, "I am a Christian," I don't speak with human pride
I'm confessing that I stumble-needing God to be my guide
When I say, "I am a Christian," I'm not trying to be strong
I'm professing that I'm weak and pray for strength to carry on
When I say, "I am a Christian," I'm not bragging of success
I'm admitting that I've failed and cannot ever pay the debt
When I say, "I am a Christian," I don't think I know it all
I submit to my confusion asking humbly to be taught
When I say, "I am a Christian," I'm not claiming to be perfect
My flaws are far too visible but God believes I'm worth it
When I say, "I am a Christian," I still feel the sting of pain
I have my share of heartache which is why I seek His name
When I say, "I am a Christian," I do not wish to judge
I have no authority--I only know I'm loved
Copyright 1988 Carol Wimmer
Thursday, March 19, 2009
Wednesday, March 18, 2009
Moment of Clarity...
Sometimes I have these moments of clarity, it usually occurs when I actually use the counseling skills that I'm paying so much for, to evaluate and analyze the human condition, and I realize some important things. Usually I'm talking to someone else about an issue so I'm thinking I should start documenting these moments so that when I get into my funks or get down on issues that I have discussed with my friends I can see what my unclouded by emotions thought process would be if the tables were turned.
So this sessions moment of clarity is related to a conversation I was having with a friend about the frustrations of dating and about blame and self doubt and self worth and etc., etc., etc.
Basically I was taking the position that once you get to a certain point you do get frustrated with the entire process and you do begin to think that there must obviously be something wrong with you if you can't seem to get it right and so this is what I surmised:
"I can definitely understand starting to feel like it's you that is the problem but I don't think that it is always that black and white. I think the more people you date the more reasons you are going to come across that would keep it from working out whether it be issues with timing, personality differences, one or both people not knowing what they want or not being able to provide to the other person what they need or want, also people thinking they know what they want and when they get it coming to the realization that it isn't, then there is always the standard people trying to move on when they aren't ready to or aren't over the last person, and several other non-fault reasons along with all the other reasons that are based on fault. When we consider all of these things, I think it is easier to really see the difficulties that any single person out there may come up against and sometimes we will be the problem but not always and it won't always be as concrete as it being us or them, but the experience provides us with the opportunity to test our self esteem and idea of self worth and our patience. I think more often than not hind site is 20-20 and when we look back on past relationships (in whatever capacity it was in) we can see that our expectations of a particular relationship weren't in line with the reality of who we really are or more importantly it may not have been in line with reality as to who that person really was."
Yeah, I said that. I know shocking! Well at least it's documented here so that hopefully I can keep this in mind if I ever start to doubt myself again.
Thursday, March 12, 2009
8 Things...
8 Things
1. Ambition
2. Whining
3. Gossip/Tabloid Mags
4. Multiple Questions
5. Man Chores
6. Organization/Planning
7. Bossiness/Mothering
8. Girlie Shows
... Figure out what this is a list of yet? Well apparently it's a list of 8 things that guys say that they hate or can't stand, but secretly like.
1. Ambition
2. Whining
3. Gossip/Tabloid Mags
4. Multiple Questions
5. Man Chores
6. Organization/Planning
7. Bossiness/Mothering
8. Girlie Shows
... Figure out what this is a list of yet? Well apparently it's a list of 8 things that guys say that they hate or can't stand, but secretly like.
Wednesday, March 11, 2009
Tuesday, March 10, 2009
Make It Stop...
Soooooooooooooooooooooooo tired of hearing about Chris Brown & Rihanna. I think all those people out there who are saying that she is setting a bad example for girls out there and that he should go to jail and what not are not thinking realistically.
She is a person just like everyone else first and foremost, not matter what standards the public holds her up to. None of that mess matters. In the real world people make decisions whether good or bad everyday! They have the right to make those decisions and to let things play out. If you are parenting your child correctly you should be telling them about their self worth and how important they are and that they should never abuse someone or allow someone to abuse them. We all know that you can talk til you are blue in the face, most people who are in a relationship where they have been hit before do try to work it out. It usually takes time or something MAJOR to happen for them to make the decision to leave. Soooooooooooo I ask all these smart people out here talking about the example that she is setting how do you expect this 21 year old female who lives, and loves, and hurts, and learns, just like the rest of us to be any different than the average person on the street, and how do you fault her for that? If your child needs a celebrity to look up to as their MAIN role model in their life then you need to be asking YOURSELF some serious questions.
The one thing that I find to be really interesting in the whole thing though is how quickly people are to write him off. That man is young, very young. With counseling, and education and soem real work on his part you don't know what he is capable of accomplishing. From what I understand he also has witnessed this stuff in his background and from a counseling perspective most people do go to the extremes once they've been a part of or witnessed trauma. You either run clear away from it or dive right into it. Until you deal with your issues, and put the past behind you it is difficult for anyone to not repeat it! So what makes this man any different?
I think a lot of people need not throw rocks in a glass house. We have all made bad decisions, and dumbass mistakes, we have all done something we said we never would. We all have at least one thing that if we could do it again we would try to do it differently. The difference is that we aren't famous and don't have our faces plastered everywhere and have a bunch of idiots holding us to an unrealistic standard, when we do our shit. So lay off!!!
She is a person just like everyone else first and foremost, not matter what standards the public holds her up to. None of that mess matters. In the real world people make decisions whether good or bad everyday! They have the right to make those decisions and to let things play out. If you are parenting your child correctly you should be telling them about their self worth and how important they are and that they should never abuse someone or allow someone to abuse them. We all know that you can talk til you are blue in the face, most people who are in a relationship where they have been hit before do try to work it out. It usually takes time or something MAJOR to happen for them to make the decision to leave. Soooooooooooo I ask all these smart people out here talking about the example that she is setting how do you expect this 21 year old female who lives, and loves, and hurts, and learns, just like the rest of us to be any different than the average person on the street, and how do you fault her for that? If your child needs a celebrity to look up to as their MAIN role model in their life then you need to be asking YOURSELF some serious questions.
The one thing that I find to be really interesting in the whole thing though is how quickly people are to write him off. That man is young, very young. With counseling, and education and soem real work on his part you don't know what he is capable of accomplishing. From what I understand he also has witnessed this stuff in his background and from a counseling perspective most people do go to the extremes once they've been a part of or witnessed trauma. You either run clear away from it or dive right into it. Until you deal with your issues, and put the past behind you it is difficult for anyone to not repeat it! So what makes this man any different?
I think a lot of people need not throw rocks in a glass house. We have all made bad decisions, and dumbass mistakes, we have all done something we said we never would. We all have at least one thing that if we could do it again we would try to do it differently. The difference is that we aren't famous and don't have our faces plastered everywhere and have a bunch of idiots holding us to an unrealistic standard, when we do our shit. So lay off!!!
Guiltless...
Yeah I said it. I'm not going to feel guilty. I'm not taking responsibility at all. Why? Because I've realized that if nothing else I've been HONEST!!!
A friendship is not a thing that is made to be one sided. If you can't talk to someone unless they talk to you first or they contact you, there is a problem. If you are treated differently for your actions that if another friend( and especially another friend of the opposite sex of yourself) would have gotten no flack for then there is a problem.
The question is who has the problem? Well it's not me. I answer my phone, I text, I e mail, I do me! It does not matter who is in the room or isn't in the room. Why? Because I'm not lying to myself or anyone else.
Real Talk!
A friendship is not a thing that is made to be one sided. If you can't talk to someone unless they talk to you first or they contact you, there is a problem. If you are treated differently for your actions that if another friend( and especially another friend of the opposite sex of yourself) would have gotten no flack for then there is a problem.
The question is who has the problem? Well it's not me. I answer my phone, I text, I e mail, I do me! It does not matter who is in the room or isn't in the room. Why? Because I'm not lying to myself or anyone else.
Real Talk!
Monday, March 9, 2009
Investing In Me
So I just got my third tattoo. My Mom asked me why did I get this tattoo. I got it because I'm very serious about developing a life of expectancy. I'm serious about being patient and waiting on God to do good in my life and to lead me where it is that he wants me to go.I've decided that if I am serious about change in my life and about living a more positive life, that I have to make serious choices. I can't say that I want to be more positive that I want my goals to be realized, that I want to be happy in love, life, family, and friendship but not make the initial steps to get there. God and no one else can change me if I haven't made the decision to seek and to be open for that change.
I also realize however that this is not going to be something that happens over night. You don't just wake up one morning and find yourself forever changed it is a process. I've just realized that there are many things in my life that I allow to stress me out, that I allow to continue and I do have control over whether or not I continue to do that. What I am proposing is not to say that I am going to walk around in denial that unpleasant things occur or that sometimes I am in difficult situations that do appear as though they will not end well. What I am saying is that instead of starting out with situations that are unhealthy and unproductive in the first place, and then hoping for those situations to magically become better, I am going to systematically expel those situations from my life. When bad things do occur instead of thinking it is the end of the world or letting my entire way of thinking become negative, I am going to look at the isolated issue as negative and do what I can to help the situation and let the rest go. I will focus on what is good in my life right now today and continue to work towards those goals that I want to accomplish. I know that bad things most likely will occur just because I have made the decision to be positive and to focus on the good in my life. I however am ready to believe in myself and the power that thinking positively will bring positivity. Even on the days that I have to fake it, I will do so because I don't want to fall backwards. I'm moving forward and I am excited about it.
Friday, January 30, 2009
A Test of True Friendship!
The Friendship Test
Get a piece of paper so that you can keep track and look over things when you are finished. I think most of this is pretty much common logic, but I also can admit the power of looking over things in writing and getting more meaning out of it. Everyone has different levels of introversion and extroversion and that may or may not determine the amount of "friends" that you have. One thing is very certain, however, no matter what your personality type is, we are all only blessed to have a few good friends in this life. Some times it takes really sitting down and thinking about the characteristics of others to recognize it though.
1. Name 10 of your friends.
2. From that list, pick 6 people that you can honestly say you talk to, think about, and/or hang out with on a regular basis.
3. From that list who can you talk to without feeling judged or misunderstood?
4. From that same list who can you count on to do you a favor, with in their abilities hands down?
5. Who can complete your sentences and who's sentences can you complete?
6. Who would go on a roadtrip with you with little notice, and without knowing much of the itinerary?
7. Who will lend/give you money?
8. Who would you allow to talk to one or both of your parents unsupervised by you?
9. Who would you be comfortable expressing/showing emotion in front of?
10. Who gifts the best presents, not based on price but on what you want?
And Finally...
11. Who do you know, hands down, believes in you?
Get a piece of paper so that you can keep track and look over things when you are finished. I think most of this is pretty much common logic, but I also can admit the power of looking over things in writing and getting more meaning out of it. Everyone has different levels of introversion and extroversion and that may or may not determine the amount of "friends" that you have. One thing is very certain, however, no matter what your personality type is, we are all only blessed to have a few good friends in this life. Some times it takes really sitting down and thinking about the characteristics of others to recognize it though.
1. Name 10 of your friends.
2. From that list, pick 6 people that you can honestly say you talk to, think about, and/or hang out with on a regular basis.
3. From that list who can you talk to without feeling judged or misunderstood?
4. From that same list who can you count on to do you a favor, with in their abilities hands down?
5. Who can complete your sentences and who's sentences can you complete?
6. Who would go on a roadtrip with you with little notice, and without knowing much of the itinerary?
7. Who will lend/give you money?
8. Who would you allow to talk to one or both of your parents unsupervised by you?
9. Who would you be comfortable expressing/showing emotion in front of?
10. Who gifts the best presents, not based on price but on what you want?
And Finally...
11. Who do you know, hands down, believes in you?
Sunday, January 25, 2009
What I Hope To Be.... A Classic!
Audrey Hepburn:
A quality education has the power to transform societies in a single generation, provide children with the protection they need from the hazards of poverty, labor exploitation and disease, and given them the knowledge, skills, and confidence to reach their full potential.
For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone.
I decided, very early on, just to accept life unconditionally; I never expected it to do anything special for me, yet I seemed to accomplish far more than I had ever hoped. Most of the time it just happened to me without my ever seeking it.
I don't want to be alone, I want to be left alone.
I love people who make me laugh. I honestly think it's the thing I like most, to laugh. It cures a multitude of ills. It's probably the most important thing in a person.
I never think of myself as an icon. What is in other people's minds is not in my mind. I just do my thing.
I never thought I'd land in pictures with a face like mine.
I probably hold the distinction of being one movie star who, by all laws of logic, should never have made it. At each stage of my career, I lacked the experience.
I was asked to act when I couldn't act. I was asked to sing 'Funny Face' when I couldn't sing, and dance with Fred Astaire when I couldn't dance - and do all kinds of things I wasn't prepared for. Then I tried like mad to cope with it.
I was born with an enormous need for affection, and a terrible need to give it.
If I get married, I want to be very married.
It's that wonderful old-fashioned idea that others come first and you come second. This was the whole ethic by which I was brought up. Others matter more than you do, so 'don't fuss, dear; get on with it.'
People, even more than things, have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed, and redeemed; never throw out anyone.
Pick the day. Enjoy it - to the hilt. The day as it comes. People as they come... The past, I think, has helped me appreciate the present - and I don't want to spoil any of it by fretting about the future.
Remember, if you ever need a helping hand, it's at the end of your arm, as you get older, remember you have another hand: The first is to help yourself, the second is to help others.
Success is like reaching an important birthday and finding you're exactly the same.
The best thing to hold onto in life is each other.
There are certain shades of limelight that can wreck a girl's complexion.
Your heart just breaks, that's all. But you can't judge, or point fingers. You just have to be lucky enough to find someone who appreciates you.
You can always tell what kind of a person a man really thinks you are by the earrings he gives you
Thursday, January 22, 2009
Oscar Nominated....
From now on, and rightly so Taraji P. Henson can put Oscar Nominated in front of her name. How cool is that? I think her role as Queenie was great in The Curious Case of Benjamin Button. She was very believable and I always find it interesting when people play roles where they have to age. It's one thing to put on a face full of make-up but it's a whole other thing to play a young woman, a middle aged woman, and mature to an older woman. I think it's great that she finally is getting some recognition.
If for some reason you've been living under a rock and haven't seen these other movies that may have predicted that such an honor was in the works for this actress, make sure for a start you check out:
- 2001's Baby Boy
- 2005's Hustle & Flow
- 2008's The Family That Preys