Sunday, September 4, 2011

Deep Thoughts At Night...

We as people are so fallible! It is not as if life comes with a one size one journey fits all manual for us to follow. it is rather difficult feeling and being one with any decision that we make because we spend so much time either worrying about not making the right decision or not making the right decision for others/based on what others will think, that we lose sight of the importance of having the privilege of choice and the ability to choose.

When it comes to relationships, we are exceptionally fallible and often times unyielding to the fact that it is honestly the most difficult task that any human can take on. In the act of worrying you do a job and you either do it well or you don't, that is clear! Even as a parent you can have various parental styles but still be seen as a good parent (for the most part) as long as you are trying. But being in a relationship with another human being with their own pet peeves, values, and flaws is a completely different story. Even in the best of matches you may have to fight and compromise so much more than you ever thought you would and all for the sake of making love last. In the end just because your actions were "right" in your eyes, that doesn't mean your relationship will last or be good or considered successful.

We spend so much time judging ourselves and others that we rarely take a moment step back and think about how subjective our lives, situations, and decisions are. What is right for one may not be for others. For some it is as simple as your answer to the question "is love enough?" Some may answer (essentially) yes. Others may answer (essentially) no. Neither answer is wrong! For me, myself and I, I would answer essentially no. I believe in compromise and human error I believe in forgiveness and second chances but I also believe in the fact that we have a heart and a brain and the freedom to make choices so that we do so. Someone makes a choice and a consequence follows whether positive or negative. While someone has the right to choose to put me second or last or to disregard me all together I also have the right to say thank you but no thank you. For me struggle and hardship are very difficult things they present opportunities for growth but we have to figure out if the cost is something we can pay.

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