It is constant because often times those in need, in crisis, in desperation, or a pattern, often have no concept of anything except their need at the time.
As a Helper it is imperative that you always remember the above in all efforts.
As a Helper it is also necessary to check if you are helping someone in need of your help, willing and able to accept your help, and meet that person(s) where they are.
In order for the Helper to remain able they must:
Take care of themselves first.
Learn when their desire to help has surpassed the helpees desire to change.
And learn to say no.
What may be the most important for a Helper is to remember to do what they can when they can and that as long as their intentions were to help the outcome does not directly relate to the job done and ultimately who they are as a helper.
Beware of leeches (no matter the accidental or purposeful kind) who view Helpers as a resource as sustenance instead of that which they are... help.
Do not expect thank you's or true understanding of sacrifices you have made, the only purpose for helping has to be just that, the ability to help.
For the Helper that is highly adaptable, be sure that in helping others:
You don't forget who you are, outside of what you do.
What you value.
Your own dreams, goals, direction.
It can not be said enough that being a Helper is truly about balance.
Help who you can when you can.
The outcomes do not define you.
Be careful who you go above and beyond for.
Lastly, remember that it is not selfish to take care of yourself, sometimes the most important person you can help is you.
**When I say taking care of yourself, that means personally obviously but also could/does include those you are directly linked with and/or responsible for.
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